Here’s one reason—and how to move through it.
You’re not bad at speaking. You’re just scared of being judged, you lack confidence in being able to speak, and retain the ideas in your mind.
You know what to say, but when it’s your turn to speak, your mind blanks out.
The truth is, we all know how to talk. We do it every day—at home, with friends, at work.
But the moment it’s called public speaking, pressure enters the room.
I used to feel that too. I thought confidence was something you were either born with or not.
Then I realised something important:
“Public speaking or instructing are rarely natural talents. They are skills that need to be learnt and developed.”
Turns out, it’s true it is a skill that can be developed. You can train it your thinking processes so that those blanks don’t happen.
Once you start training that skill, confidence follows. And it doesn’t take hours of rehearsal to begin. Just one minute is enough.
So how do you get started on the process of organising your thoughts and building your confidence in being bale to speak in public? Try this short excercise:
⏱ Set a one-minute timer.
❓ Ask yourself a random question.
🗣 Keep talking until time’s up.
Then repeat that process. Each round, shift your phrasing or explore a new angle. Do that for a few times with the same quesion, until you feel comfortable, confident.
This simple exercise helps your brain stay organized when pressure kicks in.
After each round, reflect:
1️⃣ Did I make a clear main point? 2️⃣ Did my examples support my message? 3️⃣ Did I sound more organized than before?
As you gain confidence, extend the timer—two minutes, then three. The goal isn’t to sound perfect. It’s to think clearly while speaking.
The more you practice, the less your mind needs to “perform.” You start trusting your own clarity.
If you’ve ever wanted to avoiding situations that require you to speak in public, and start speaking with confidence—start with one minute today.
Clarity builds calm. Calm builds confidence. And confidence grows from practice.
Ready to go deeper?
Fear of judgment is just one reason people hold back. What are some other reasons?
Here are some common ones that we come across:
- Not knowing how to structure your message
- Feeling disconnected from your audience
- Past experiences that shook your confidence
- Simply being overcome by nerves, or woorried about “stage fright”
- Feeling disconnected from your audience
At Re-Set Coaching, we help you identify the specific barriers holding you back. Then we tailor a program to help you overcome them—step by step, with strategic tools and guided practice.
While public speaking is a performance, it is also conversation. Contact us now and let us help you reset how you approach it.